Core values help to guide actions and behavior. If you do not teach your children some core values you believe they need to have, they are likely to pick up the values of those around them.
For example, they may start thinking that if they have plenty of money, they will be happy. Here are five core values you should teach them that will determine their choices and affect their decisions in life.
One of the best habits you can teach your children is to be honest. Children of pre-school or school-age will often lie to avoid punishment. You need to help them to understand that you will not love them any less if they are honest about what they have done.
When you catch a child being dishonest, it provides a good opportunity to find out why they lied and explain how lying hurts relationships because it leads to mistrust. You can find out if children are lying by installing SpyFone, a free mobile tracker app on their cell phones. You can see their contacts and monitor them from a control panel.
Parents need to teach children a healthy respect for themselves and for others. When you teach them to respect themselves, you give them the capacity to say no when others try to pressure them into doing things they do not want to do.
Punishing children harshly does not breed respect. When they feel that you hear them, respect them, and discipline them fairly, it is easier for them to respect other people, despite their differences. Respect for others means that they acknowledge the needs of other people are as important as their own.
When a child is disrespectful, try to identify the cause of the disrespect and show them a better and more caring way to relate.
The ability for children to understand that others have different thoughts and feelings from theirs and respond with care is a complex skill to develop. If you give your child acceptance and understanding, it will help him to accept and understand others.
You can also help to nurture empathy in your children by talking with them about their own feelings and the feelings of others. If your child has taken someone else’s toy, for example, tell him that the person is feeling sad because he took it. He should give the toy back and rather choose another one.
Read your child books about feelings and be a role model of how to interact with others in kind, caring ways.
Life often means having to face setbacks and obstacles. It is important for children to learn to persist despite difficulties. Teach them not to feel like victims of circumstances but to see them as an opportunity to grow.
Being able to rise above your own disappointments and stay hopeful is one of the best ways to teach your children resilience. When they face their own disappointments, talk to them about them and show compassion. Discuss with them what positive steps they can take to rise above obstacles.
As much as you want to protect your children when they go through their ups and downs in life, it is not possible for you to be there with them all the time. Teaching your child to speak up and stand up for himself is a valuable lesson.
Children should have the courage to be able to ask questions when they do not know the answers. They should have the self-confidence to stand up for themselves when they are treated unfairly and defend themselves without being disrespectful.